Many people wonder why their partner does not listen to them. What most people don’t know is that there is a secret to being heard, especially when the content might be a touchy subject. Most people make the mistake of saying, “you did” rather than, “for me” or, “I feel that”. It is a very simple little shift that makes hard content a little easier to hear. So, let’s give this a try, say your wife leaves her shoes in the middle of the floor. You want her to stop because you are tired of tripping on them. Rather than the typical statement, “you always leave your shoes in the middle of the floor!” Try this, “I would be super happy if you would put your shoes away” with a smile. Or, “I really struggle with not tripping on your shoes, would you mind putting them away?” There are many simple shifts that can make communication much less challenging. Reach out to a skilled couple's counselor today to learn more!
Why don't you listen?!
Updated: Oct 20, 2021